How did you meet?
In plain terms, we met in a bar in our early twenties.
Both having grown up in Perth, we met on the eve of winter in 1996 at Connections night club in Perth — the southern hemisphere’s oldest gay club. We still occasionally pop into the club when in town.
We had a 20th anniversary party at our local town hall which doubled as a surprise engagement party — however, it was another five years before we wed.
Tell us about the style of your wedding.
We had a small wedding party, but wanted all guests to feel part of proceedings. Don had a best woman and Andy a best man. A Wiradjuri friend offered a very moving Acknowledgement of Gadigal Country in the absence of Gadigal guests. Friends and family offered readings.
Our families are Catholic, and Andy practices his faith. While the ceremony was civil, a priest friend assisted the celebrant and offered blessings. Together, they were able to blend our tradition into the civil ceremony in a very personal and meaningful way.
We wanted the style to be as simple, fresh, elegant and generous as we could offer. With everyone being a bit over the lockdowns of 2019, there was a great feeling of wanting to dress up, celebrate and dance. We didn’t want to burden guests with an overly tight dress code, so while it wasn’t ‘strictly formal’, who wouldn’t get a bit dressy for a wedding at the Opera House? We did, however, suggest a ‘touch of silver’ theme, in recognition of the dual celebrations of wedding and silver anniversary — whether in cocktail dress or silver sneakers, our guests sparkled.
As hosts, we wanted to be both generous and mindful of waste. Rather than discard flowers after the reception, we asked our florist to make portable table arrangements — several for each table — so guests helped us ‘bump out’ the venue by taking the flowers and candles. We heard reports of the flowers still going strong after several weeks.