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Sohaila Abdulali

From international policy to the nuance of consent, survivor, writer and former coordinator of a rape crisis centre, Sohaila Abdulali finds ways to talk about the difficult question of rape.

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“No amount of perscribed language can make up for mutual respect.”

Sohaila Abdulali

it's time to ask who rapes, and why 

Walking on well lit streets. Holding a key as a weapon. Always being on guard. Women are schooled to think about rape every day. But victim blaming culture forgets the most important question: who are the people who rape? Sohaila Abdulali, a former coordinator of a rape crisis centre, explores rape culture in her book What We Talk About When We Talk About Rape. From her own experience as a 17 year old in India, she expands to a global analysis to ask what it means when sex becomes about power and violence. Her unflinching gaze explores the issue with humanity and grace. Join this incredible session as Sohaila interrogates consent, male entitlement, and how we can create a world where women are free from fear.

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Sohaila Abdulali was born in Mumbai, India. After college, Sohaila coordinated the Boston Area Rape Crisis Center for two years, and she has worked as a journalist in Philadelphia, Boston and Bombay. In 1998, her bestselling novel, The Madwoman of Jogare, was published. Her January 2013 op-ed in the New York Times broke readership records. A public speaker,  guest lecturer and adjunct professor, her work of non-fiction, What We Talk About When We Talk About Rape, was published in 2018.

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